The Holistic Bump

What couples therapy is about

Most couples don’t come in because of one issue. They come in because they are stuck in a pattern.

 

That pattern might look like:

• One partner pursues, the other withdraws

• Conversations escalate quickly

• Issues never fully resolve

• Both partners feel misunderstood or unheard

 

Couples therapy focuses on identifying and shifting these patterns, not just resolving surface-level disagreements.

 

What is the Gottman Method?

The Gottman Method is a research-based approach to couples therapy developed from decades of studying what makes relationships succeed or fail.

 

It focuses on:

• Strengthening friendship and emotional connection

• Improving communication and conflict management

• Building trust and commitment

 

Some core components include:

• Learning how to have difficult conversations without escalation

• Understanding each partner’s internal experience and needs

• Repairing conflict effectively

• Increasing positive interactions and emotional attunement

 

This approach is structured and practical. It gives couples specific tools they can use outside of sessions.

 

Who this work is for

Couples therapy can be helpful if you are:

• Experiencing frequent conflict or tension

• Feeling disconnected or distant

• Navigating a major life transition (such as becoming parents)

• Struggling with communication

• Dealing with betrayal, trust issues, or unresolved hurt

• Wanting to strengthen an already solid relationship

 

How couples therapy helps

In our work together, we:

• Map out the cycle you get stuck in

• Identify each partner’s role in maintaining that cycle

• Develop new ways of communicating that are more effective

• Build skills to manage conflict without escalation

• Strengthen emotional connection and understanding

 

The goal is not to eliminate conflict. It’s to help you navigate it in a way that doesn’t damage the relationship.

 

My Approach

My work is active, collaborative, and grounded in evidence-based treatment. I integrate multiple modalities depending on your needs rather than using a one-size-fits-all approach.

 

I focus on:

• Helping you understand patterns (not just symptoms)

• Providing tools that are practical and usable

• Creating a space where you can be honest without feeling judged

 

I will challenge you when needed, help you make connections you may not see on your own, and support you in making meaningful, sustainable changes.